ADVICE FOR ENGAGED COUPLES: DON'T LET THE PLANNING CONSUME YOU

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        As engagement season is quickly approaching, I want to share some advice that will come in handy as the wedding planning commences. First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!!! You're ENGAGED or soon-to-be! This is a day you have been dreaming of for ages and it's FINALLY here! YAY!!! This is one of the most exciting seasons of your life---enjoy it!! Celebrate with family and friends, and soak up this season! It's something to be excited about!

       But can I be transparent with you? As exciting as this new season of life is, it is also uber stressful. After all, you are planning out ,in detail, one of the biggest events of your life, and everybody has thoughts and opinions on how you should orchestrate this special day. Your parents have certain opinions, your friends have opinions, your great Aunt Susie has an opinion---I think you're catching my drift. There is so much involved in wedding planning, and while it is SO much fun, it also can be hard. With wedding planning being so involved and so time consuming, there's something very important that sometimes gets put on the back burner--your relationship with your fiancé. Today, I just want to give you some tidbits of advice that I learned while Christopher and I were planning our wedding.

       First of all, you don't have to talk about the wedding with your fiancé all the time. In fact, I challenge you, especially when the planning is getting in the way of ya'lls relationship, to step back and have a date night where you DO NOT talk about the wedding at all. You'll be surprised how refreshing this is. Having date nights like this really help you to stop and remember WHY you're having a wedding in the first place. When me and my husband were engaged, we also were renovating where we were going to be living. This was extremely stressful on us, as we only had a 6 month long engagement and 3 months to actually complete our DIY renovations before it was time for us to move in. If you and your fiancé are also looking at a new place to live, I would remove that from the topic of conversation too ;)

      Next, rather then spending so much time talking about the wedding, spend some time talking about your MARRIAGE. After all, this is what it's all about! Talk about how you want the atmosphere to be in your home, get on the same page about how many children you want, talk about your future hopes and dreams together.  After all, your marriage is what matters most. The wedding is simply just the beginning of an amazing life together. It's so easy to focus on solely the wedding day, I've been there. Looking back, I wish I would have spent more time preparing for my marriage.